3 Life Lessons I’ve Learned Since Turning 30

This past Saturday I celebrated my 33rd birthday. The weather was great, my husband showered me with goodies, my daughter was giddy with excitement and I feasted on one of my favorite dishes (seafood pasta). After such a wonderful day, I stopped to ponder three of the most significant things I’ve learned so far in my thirties.

Ava and me on my birthday.

Ava and me on my birthday.


Thought I’d share them with you guys!

1. Some friendships aren’t meant to last a lifetime. It took me until I was 30 years old to realize that all friends aren’t supposed to be in my life forever. I had to learn how to recognize when a friendship’s season has passed and move forward!

2. Worrying about what other people think of me is pretty pointless. In my 20s, I spent far too much time concerned about how people perceived me. In these last few years, I’m the most comfortable I’ve ever been in my own skin and people’s opinions of me no longer have a place in my life.

3. Happiness is a choice! I have read my fair share of self-help books pertaining to the pursuit of happiness and have finally concluded that happiness isn’t just a state of being, but a choice. We have the ability to make the most out of our less-than-ideal situations and see the silver lining in every aspect of our lives. And Oprah is right, happiness and gratefulness goes hand-in-hand!

If you’re in your 30s (or beyond), what’s been the most significant thing you’ve learned during the third decade of your life?


  1. Sherita says:

    1st: Happy Birthday! I learned that just because it works for someone else does not necessarily mean it will work for me. I’ve spent the better part of my life being a better mother, wife, sister, and daughter.

  2. I have learned that I am never going to know everything and that I will never be perfect. All I can be is the best that I can be and as long as I keep trying that is all that counts.

  3. that guy says:

    happy b-day

  4. happy birthday fellow taurean. turning 32 im the most confident ive ever been. im learning to stop worrying when i will meet the right one. that’s been my biggest downfall though. it seems like the clock keeps ticking and i cant make it stop. lolol enjoy hon.

    • Brown Girl Gumbo says:

      Thanks so much for the bday wishes! Don’t worry, the right person just when you’re least expecting it!! 🙂 Thanks again for sharing your comment. 🙂

  5. Happy belated birthday! It feels like forever since I’ve checked your site & commented. Great post! You & Ava look so pretty in that pic.

    • Brown Girl Gumbo says:

      I’m so late responding, but THANK YOU!! Yes, I’ve slowed down posting because for the better part of this year I haven’t felt the best. 🙁

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