GIVEAWAY & Interview: Sarah Jakes Author of ‘Lost & Found’

Sarah Jakes may have a famous father (Bishop T.D. Jakes), but the mom of two is well on her way to becoming a household name in her own right.

In her brand new memoir “Lost & Found: Finding Hope in the Detours of Life,” Jakes shares her story of being a mom at 14, living under a microscope, becoming a divorcée and overcoming life’s obstacles while strengthening and maintaining her faith.

Photo via: sarahjakes.com

Photo via: sarahjakes.com

At only 25, Jakes has mastered a writing style that is conversational and completely transparent. “Lost & Found,” draws readers in as if you’re peeking into your best friend’s or sister’s diary. She doesn’t shy away from providing in-depth details about her life that some may view as less-than-favorable (especially being the daughter of a renowned pastor), but instead includes them in hopes that they will serve as examples to inspire and encourage other young women.

I recently spoke with the West Virginia-born author to discuss her book, her favorite beauty product and more!

Sarah-Jakes“Lost & Found” will be released April 1st here, $18.49

Check out the Q&A below:

BGG: Congratulations on such a great read! I know that you will touch so many young women with your story.

Sarah Jakes: Thank you so much. I’m so excited and anxious to finally get it out.

BGG: The entire book is so enlightening, but what is the most important thing that you’d want readers to take from your book?

SJ: It’s my prayer that people will read the book and not just see my story but see parts of themselves and their thought patterns that they may have had about themselves and then hopefully take those thoughts (like I had to learn how to do) and use them to empower yourself and be more transparent with our fellow sisters. I think Sometimes we can feel isolated when we have an opportunity to help one another by discussing the challneges that we face. I hope that it opens a discussion that continues for years and years to come.

BGG: What if any was the most difficult part of your memoir to write?

SJ: I think talking about my marriage was probably one of the most difficult parts becaues I’m not sure that I realized until I sat down to read the book exactly how lost I was and how hurt and broken I was. Reliving those moments and revisiting them were very hard.

BGG: When you were approached by book publishers (after telling your story at a women’s conference), did you ever have any hesitation about essentially sharing your story with the world?

SJ: Well, when they first approached me about writing my memoir I didn’t think I had enough material to write a memoir. So that was my only hesitancy. After I wrote the memoir, I said there are quite a few things in here! (laughing)

BGG: Growing up did you ever think you’d become an author?

SJ: Absolutely not. I never thought that writing was a gift. We learned to write in grade school so I thought that everyone wrote. I never thought it was anything special; I thought everyone did it. It wasn’t until I started my blog that I recognized that I might really have a gift.

BGG: Would you say starting your blog (in 2010) essentially changed your life?

SJ: It completely changded my life. That’s why I could never regret any of the things that I faced with my marriage because it allowed me to learn and develop a gift that I had not discovered. Also, I think there was something about knowing that I wasn’t alone that made me feel like if everyone is hurting maybe we can all heal.

BGG: Besides your father, is there anyone else whom you look to for spiritual guidance?

SJ: Funny as this may sound, I really look at my children. I admire their ability to bounce back and to make amends with friends. They have such forgiving and loving hearts because they haven’t been jaded by life yet. So I always try to look at them and say if they can laugh after wailing and crying seconds ago, then I can too. We are more resilient than we give ourselves credit for.

BGG: What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?

SJ: Most recently someone told me to be careful reading the book reviews with the negative headlines and I thought that was really good for me. A lot of times critics might look at my story and compare it to other authors. I didn’t grow up feeling like I wanted to be this author, I’m just a person who’s sharing her story. Also, Dr. Nicole (her marriage counselor) told me to own my process. Meaning, don’t let your process fit other people’s expectations.

BGG: In this nonstop digital age with so many distractions at our fingertips, how do you stay spiritually connected on a daily basis?

SJ: The one thing I do constantly is that I’m always checking in with God. I’m always praying in some form all throughout the day. They’re not long expressive prayers like we have at night and in the morning, but there are so many opportunities to thank Him for the smallest things. I’ve found that since I’ve done that and made it my mission to find something to be thankful for at every moment beautiful things have bloomed in my life. It’s like we’re planting seeds.

BGG: I’m going to shift gears a bit. What’s the one beauty product that you can’t live without?

SJ: Whoop Ash body lotion! I saw it on TV (“Hollywood Exes” star Sheree Fletcher created the brand) and thought the name was funny. I buy like 10 jars at a time! I also give them out as gifts. I love it! (Check out my review here)

BGG: Who are some of your favorite clothing designers?

SJ: I’m pretty classic with my style. Every now and then I’ll add something trendy to the classic look. From day-to-day it’s probably tomboy chic because I’m always running the kids to school or running errands. Oh and Target is my favorite store. When I have to get dressed up for events I always call on J. Bolin who’s been styling me. He gets me together whether it’s a piece from H&M that we jazz up with accessories from J. Crew, but I try to be economical because I’m still a mom and I’m planning for the future. I don’t go too far into the really expensive designers.

BGG: Where do you hope to be in 5 years when you’re 30?

SJ: I believe people will be probably be comparing me to Oprah because I’ll have my own talk show! I pray that whatever I do whether it’s blogging, writing or ending up on television that my message continues to be relatable, transparent and leads people back to God.

BGG: If you could tell your 15-year-old self one thing what would it be?

SJ: Slow down and pace yourself; you don’t have to move that fast.

Sarah oversees the women’s ministry at The Potter’s House of Dallas, the church led by her parents, Bishop T.D. Jakes and Mrs. Serita Jakes. Also, be sure to check out her blog sarahjakes.com.

**One lucky reader will win a copy of “Lost & Found.” Simply leave a comment sharing what bit of advice would you tell your teenage self? The winner will be randomly selected and announced next Wednesday, April 2nd. This giveaway is only open to U.S residents)

CONTEST: Want To Be The New Face of Ambi?

If you have gorgeous skin and are constantly told that you should be a model (or know someone), read on!

Ambi, the skincare brand that caters to us brown girls is hosting its first-ever model search. If you’re chosen to be the face of the brand, you could win a fabulous trip to New York City for a photo shoot and $2,000 in cash.

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I’ve been a fan of Ambi products for a few years, but I mostly gravitate toward their facial cleansers. They refresh my skin without over drying.

The contest ends on April 15th so hurry up and enter! Click here for more information.

Good luck lovelies!

Do you use Ambi products?

Celebrate Spring with jane iredale’s ‘Magic Hour’

About two weeks ago, I was transported from a woeful winter to a gorgeous garden party in the middle of Manhattan courtesy of the premium beauty brand, jane iredale —The Skincare Makeup.

Surrounded by green Astroturf and spring-inspired fare, it was the perfect setting to experience jane iredale’s latest collection, ‘Magic Hour’. I’ve reviewed the brand many times and I can honestly say that the ‘Magic Hour’ is by far my favorite offering.

kbp-jane-iredaleThey had  a super cute photo station with silly props (I chose a fedora) and an enchanted garden backdrop. 

Inspired by the brand’s most popular “Moonglow’ bronzer quad, the dreamy line includes:  a trio of golden eye shadows (Eye Shadow Triple Golden Girl, $28), a surprisingly effective highlighter (InTouch Highlighter in Comfort, $28), sparkly pinkish-peach lip gloss (Lip Fixation Craze, $30), pinkish-brown lip gloss (Lip Fixation Compulsion, $30), a highly pigmented soft and creamy liner (Jelly Jar Eyeliner Black, $28), and a slanted eyeliner brush for easy application (Angle Eyeliner Brush, $15.50).

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jane iredale—The Skincare Makeup ‘Magic Hour’ available here

Although I am obsessed with all six Magic Hour items, I’m most impressed with the highlighter since I’ve never found one that works well with my complexion. It provides an effortless, subtle glow that accentuates my cheekbones with very little application.

The entire collection boasts a mix of shimmery pink, peach, brown and golden hues that complement most BG skin tones, especially for spring.

Have you started switching up your beauty routine for spring?

Nuance Salma Hayek Launches New Spring 2014 Collection

I recently attended the launch of Nuance Salma Hayek’s spring collection at a beautiful loft space here in New York City.

Before I could even speak with the beauty brand’s reps about the line, I was met with the aroma of roses and lavender that made me long for spring even more.  After learning more about the collection, I realized that the fragrant space was inspired by the ingredients (rose oil, lavender, violet leaves, etc.) used in the products.

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The collection is comprised of hair and skincare products including : Age Affirm Firm Day & Night Cream, Age Affirm Firming Eye Balm, Age Affirming Eye Balm, Age Affirm Firming Neck & Chest Balm, Age Affirm Glycolic Cream Cleanser, Bamboo Extract Straightening Balm, Blue Agave Curls & Waves Conditioner, Blue Agave Curls & Waves Shampoo, Blue Agave Wave Enhancing Styling Swirl, Healthy Shine Nourishing Oil, and Soy Protein Primer Spray.

NUANCE-COLLECTION-1Nuance Salma Hayek is available exclusively at CVS. Prices range $7.99-$21.99

Since I’m always on the hunt for a cleanser that doesn’t dry out my skin, I was most excited to try the Age Affirm Glycolic Cream Cleanser. After about a week of usage, its delicate micro-beads sloughed away dead skin without compromising moisture or irritating my face. Plus, it’s sulfate and paraben-free making it a must-have for those of us who like to use products with as few chemicals as possible. Instead, it’s packed with natural and exotic ingredients such as oat kernel and botanical extracts that are influenced by the actress’s family beauty secrets and world travels.

Nuance-CleanserNuance Salma Hayek Age Affirm Glycolic Cream Cleanser available here, $13.99

I’ve heard about the Nuance brand for a while now, but never tried any of her products. If the rest of the  collection is half as good as the new cleanser, I’m a fan.

Stay tuned for more product reviews  from the spring collection!

Have you ever tried any products from Nuance Salma Hayek?

Lupita Nyong’o Stuns at Oscars!

Last night, little brown girls everywhere were reminded that dreams do come true.

At the 86th Annual Academy Awards in Hollywood, Lupita Nyong’o became only the sixth black actress to win the coveted Oscar for Best Supporting Actress. The 31-year-old co-star of the stirring 12 Years a Slave stunned in a light blue Prada gown that reminded the actress of Nairobi, a sparkly Fred Leighton headband and jewels.

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During her emotionally riveting acceptance speech, the Kenyan beauty spoke words that will inspire young girls and boys around the world for years to come when she uttered, “When I look down at this golden statue, may it remind me and every child, no matter where you’re from, your dreams are valid.”

Well done, Lupita, well done!

P.S For all of my fellow beauty buffs who were wondering what brand of lip balm the award-winning actress tossed in the hat for Ellen’s hilarious pizza pool schtick? Well, it’s Clarins ‘HydraQuench’ Moisture Replenishing Lip Balm! The ultra-hyrdating balm sold out almost across the country overnight!

ClarinsAvailable here, $24

Check out the funny gif here:

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 Did you watch the Academy Awards last night? If so, who do you think deserves best dressed?

Interview: Artist Mickalene Thomas On Her HBO Documentary ‘Happy Birthday To A Beautiful Woman’

Ever since seeing Mickalene Thomas‘ eye-catching portraits and colorful collages a few years ago, I’ve been captivated by her work.

That’s why I was surprised, yet thrilled to learn that the acclaimed visual artist’s latest masterpiece wouldn’t be adorned with her signature sparkly rhinestones or vibrant patterns affixed on wood panels, but instead would be a heartfelt story told through film.

Photo via www.mickalenethomas.com

Photo via www.mickalenethomas.com

Happy Birthday To A Beautiful Woman,” is Mickalene’s first film project and will premiere tonight on HBO. The docu-short is a touching, semi-sad, celebratory ode to her mother,”Mama Bush,” who is also the subject and inspiration behind many of her portraits.

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Mickalene’s undeniable creativity is showcased throughout the film as she allows photographs, music and cinematography to serve as powerful storytellers alongside her mother’s gripping recounts of dreams deferred, abuse, and addiction. Her story of struggle and overcoming adversity is universal, which is why this piece is sure to resonate with everyone, especially women.

“Happy Birthday to a Beautiful Woman,” premieres tonight, February 24 on HBO at 9PM EST.

I had the pleasure and privilege to speak with Mickalene about the film, her mother and more. Check out the interview below:

BGG: “Happy Birthday to a Beautiful Woman,” was excellent. I was so sorry to learn that your beautiful muse/mom passed away.  What was it like working with her on this project?
Mickalene Thomas: My mother is such an elegant and charismatic person. I think that was one of the reasons why I was always inspired by her…with her strength and resolve despite the difficulties (health issues, addiction and abuse) throughout her life. Doing this film allowed me to really see that person and love that person, which is why I wanted to make this film. Using her as a subject for this film was actually quite easy. Initially it was going to be an art show/project. But, after I conceived the idea and  talked to friends about it they suggested that I use film as a way to tell the story.

 

BGG: What do you want viewers to take from watching this film?
MT: I’d like for them to know what a great opportunity it was for me or anyone to create a great tribute to their mother. I think that’s something that we all hope to do in our own way in our lives no matter what we’re doing in the world. That’s why the title for me is so important. “Happy Birthday to a Beautiful Woman,” is a title that signifies celebrating motherhood and womanhood. I think my mother putting that on her cake for her 50th birthday was a mantra for her because that’s the time when her health declined. It was the inspiration that she needed in order for her to persevere.

 

BGG: So it was easy for you to decide on “Happy Birthday to a Beautiful Woman,” as the title, right?
MT: It was really easy because as I mentioned, she put it on her cake for her 50th birthday party.  During her party, I had taken a photograph of the cake. When I was filming her at her house, I saw that she had it framed and put it on her nightstand. It was then that I realized that the title was already there for me to use.

BGG: Do you plan on doing more films?
MT: Absolutely! I do plan on doing more films. I am really interested in filmmaking as a means to tell a story as an artist. I’m actually interested in doing  a semi-autobiographical feature film that deals with love (a love story).

 

BGG: Has your daughter (18-month-old Junya Rei) changed your approach to your craft? Will you incorporate her into your artwork?
MT: Yes, she actually has! My new body of work that I’m doing a preview of on March 6th (Brand New Gallery in Milan, Italy) is a tribute to that. It is very much childlike and free in dealing with geometric and formal aspects of painting. I think it has a lot to do with that child’s play of how kids see the world and them grabbing at things and having a response to what’s right in front of them. The portraits that I’m making are all untitled pieces because I want the viewers to have their own experience of the work; unlike my others that have titles that acts as a way of how it should be perceived.

 

BGG: The juxtaposition of patterns and the women in your paintings is so eclectic and beautiful, from where do you draw that inspiration?
MT: I was always looking at African textiles and photographs from African photographers from the 1970s and was just really inspired by those patterns. I also drew inspiration from my own family (my grandmother) and started bringing them into the work to create environments for my portraits.

 

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BGG: How has fashion influenced your aesthetic?
MT:  For me, fashion has always been a part of my aesthetic. The patterns I use, the fabrics that I’m interested in, and juxtaposing them with what the women are wearing in my portraits is very important. I look at fashion spreads for composition and how some of the women are posed, as well as  historical art compositions. And, I like fashion myself.

 

BGG: I know that rhinestones are prominently used in your work, tell me about that decision.
MT: Rhinestones are sort of a primary fashion aesthetic that’s used in a lot of fantastic dresses and garments throughout the world. They have always been a part of my process. One of the reasons why I’m interested in using them is because they come from very high to low quality. They’re these pieces that you put on to embellish or to make something  more beautiful or to stand out. So these notions of beauty signify the same sort of thing in relationship to how a young girl emulates her mother by learning how to dress. So those are transformed through the relationship of young girls and how they see themselves through their mothers. And I think that’s why I use my mother a lot in my work.

 

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I really want people to  hold on to this title (“Happy Birthday to a Beautiful Woman”) because it’s not just about the woman being beautiful on the outside, it’s the whole woman and what we represent in the world: what we go through, how we persevere, how we give life, how we struggle, how we uphold families and how we persevere and the tenacity of what a woman is from the inside out.

 

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BGG: What has been your proudest moment thus far in your career?
MT: At this moment I would say that this documentary is one of my proudest moment because it has transcended beyond the boundaries of my own work of only being in art galleries and museums . It’s reaching a larger public audience of people that I don’t think I’ve ever imagined to reach. There are very few creations in the world that break the barriers where it allows for a larger audience. I think film, music, and literature do that where more people can see it and be inspired by it.

 

Will you be tuning in “Happy Birthday to a Beautiful Woman” tonight?

Quench Winter-Ridden Skin

With one of the coldest, snowiest winters on record in recent years, my skin has fallen victim to the harsh conditions.

Applying thick creams and luxe lotions usually do the trick, but this Polar Vortex has my skin begging for more moisture. Good thing I discovered Jergens Shea Beauty Oil.

This lightweight oil is my new go-to for tackling dry, winter-ridden skin. It conditions and seals in moisture leaving behind a non-greasy sheen. I put it on immediately after showering and let it soak in before leaving the bathroom. After a minute or two, my skin feels soft and virtually glows with hydration. Plus, the easy spray bottle prevents messy spills and leaks.

If your skin could use some TLC thanks to this woeful winter, then this oil a must-have.

JergensJergens Shea Beauty Oil (5 oz) available here, $9

What products are you using to keep skin hydrated this winter?

Must-See: Bob Marley’s “Three Little Birds”

This past Saturday, Ava and I had the pleasure of seeing Bob Marley’s “Three Little Birds” at the New Victory Theater in Times Square.

Thanks to Chic Busy Mom, we were given press passes to the new stage play, as well as the opportunity to attend the exclusive meet-and-greet with the cast after the show.

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Adapted from the late musical legend’s daughter, Cedella Marley’s book of the same title, the vibrant play is inspired by Marley’s soul-stirring music. It tells the story of a young boy named Ziggy (Jobari Parker-Namdar) who is fixated on television and unwilling to go out and explore his rich Jamaican island much to the chagrin of his mother and friends.  In addition, the antagonist Duppy played brilliantly by S. Lewis Feemster covets the young boy’s beautiful locs and tries his best to get them.

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As the story unfolds with the help of upbeat, feel-good songs such as, “Lively Up Yourself,” “Brown Girl In The Ring,” and “One Love,” Ziggy finally comes to the realization that there is more to life than sitting in front of the TV; all while managing to outwit and escape Duppy’s hair-stealing grip.

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The colorful costumes, catchy reggae tunes and cute storyline make it a must-see for kids and adults! Plus, it’s the perfect outing to celebrate Black History Month.

The play opened Feb. 7 , 2014 and runs until Feb. 23, 2014. Visit www.newvictory.org for tickets and more information.

How are you celebrating Black History Month?

GIVEAWAY: Vaseline Wants to Make Your Valentine’s Day Rosy

Whether you’re single, married or dating, Vaseline wants to make your Valentine’s Day rosy and sweet.

The popular household brand is giving away a jar of their Lip Therapy Rosy Lips along with a box of  chocolates in honor of the romantic holiday. The slightly tinted, sheer lip treatment will leave pouts super soft and totally kissable in case Cupid comes calling.

Due to its cute compact size, it easily fits into a purse or clutch much like a small pot of gloss. And after Valentine’s Day, this small wonder will keep lips moisturized all winter long.

VSLVaseline Lip Therapy Rosy Lips available at food, drug and retailers nationwide, $2.29

Plus, the winner will also receive an array of decadent chocolates from MarieBelle, a boutique chocolatier here in New York City.

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MarieBelle chocolates

Simply visit their Facebook page here to enter for a chance to win. The contest ends February 12th at 3pm EST.

Not only can you have a shot of winning on the Vaseline FB page, one lucky reader (US residents only) will have a chance to win right here on BGG! Just leave a comment telling me if you celebrate Valentine’s Day or simply see it as a Hallmark holiday. The winner will be randomly selected and notified via email by 2/13.

Warner’s and Olga New Bras Banish Side Bulge

Lately, my evenings have been filled with baby feedings and finding new ways to keep my 4-year-old busy before bedtime. But, thanks to Warner’s and Olga I was given the opportunity to take a much-needed mommy break to learn about their latest launch and have my first bra fitting.

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Although I was unfamiliar with the bra brand prior to the event, I was excited to have a professional take my measurements and reveal my true size. To be honest, I have been buying a 34B since high school. While my weight hasn’t fluctuated that much throughout the years, my breasts have changed since having two children.

Since I am nursing, I figured that my size would be much bigger than normal. I was right and wrong. The width I have been purchasing all these years have been off a size (I’m actually a 32) and the cup size was one size larger (due to nursing).

brasWarner’s “No Side Effects” bras are available mid-February at retailers nationwide including Kohls.com, $38

Warner’s new “No Side Effects”  (Olga has the “On Your Side” plus-size offering) bra provides excellent coverage which prevents that unsightly “sleevage” that we women suffer from no matter our size. There’s a swath of extra fabric that smooths the area that tends to bulge while wearing sleeveless tops creating a sleek look. Plus, these bras have cushy padding on the straps for a comfy fit.

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Not only did I learn my actual bra size, I was also able to try out the new bra under two super cute vegan leather Sanctuary tops that were gifted at the end of the event:

warner-6Initially I thought this top was dark brown, but it’s really a deep wine color.

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I love that the sides of this top are stretchy.

Have you ever been professionally bra-fitted? Do you ever suffer from “sleevage?”